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I’m an ideas guy. For ideas guys like me, it’s easy to get lost. (See Darren Rowse’s talk at minute 24 ish). My head’s already spinning with ideas for the lifeisnoyoke site (and that’s absurd because I just launched a complete redesign).
But looking back on the week’s daily “ones”, I can see that I’m not lost. I’m not just an ideas guy.
This job? That job? This project? That project? This marketing tactic or that one?
No worries about that “how I’m going to get there” stuff. I’ve figured out where I want to be.
I want to be an influential leader in the American Health and Wellness Advocacy community.
Notice there’s no “doing verbs” like change or sell or build. That’s all “how you’re going to get there” stuff. That’s all stuff I’m doing, but most of it is getting me “where I want to be.” Anything not getting where I want to be should and will stop.
Want the formula? Fill in the blank: “I want to be a ________ (adjective and title/impact) in the _______ (specific community/niche).”
Some more examples:
I want to be a well-respected trial lawyer for personal injury plaintiffs in Illinois.
I want to be an innovator for the women’s apparel business in the Midwest. (Hi, Mom.)
I want to be an active, present, and retired grandfather to my family.
Your “where you want to be” can and will change. For a while, mine was a “calculated risk-taking entrepreneur in the road-warrior consultant world.” Now, it’s “an influential leader in the American Health and Wellness Advocacy community.” Later, it will be different.
But, I like where my “where you want to be” is now.
If someone offers to help you, you have two choices:
Take the help now
Decline, defer, or do nothing
This is obvious during interactions with strangers. A stranger might offer to hold the elevator for you now. That doesn’t mean you can expect them hold the elevator when you really need it.
It’s less obvious with acquaintances. An acquaintance might want to do lunch to talk about ideas that could help you and your new business. That doesn’t mean you can wait a few months to take her up on the offer. By then, she’s not excited to help you anymore.
It’s even less obvious with close friends. A close friend might offer to help. Declining their offer might be insulting to them. They’re just being a good friend.
So choice two seems pretty crappy, huh?
Take the time to accept offers for help. Even if it’s not a good time for you, there’s more to lose when you say, “Can we reschedule?”